From ABC’s 20/20:
On the hit ABC show “Desperate Housewives,” cheating destroys marriages because spouses lie and get caught.
But we found couples who say they have found a way to enjoy the company of others without the deception. It’s called the “lifestyle,” or swinging, an arrangement in which couples have sex with other couples, and there is no secrecy.
The lifestyle makes relationships stronger; No surprise here!
Bob and Tess don’t believe that. “To us, sex is not love. Sex is sex. It’s just natural to be attracted to people, to other people. I mean, that’s just nature. And we decided one day not to suppress nature,” Bob said.
I like how Bob and Tess think.
When Gould was assigned to write a news story about swinging, he assumed it would be all sleaze. He was surprised when he went to an elegant club.
“I met bankers and lawyers, and I started talking to these people,” he said.
Gould then spent three years researching the lifestyle and the people who swing.
“Most of them don’t drink and most of them don’t use drugs. They believe in raising children in clean-cut, stable environments. They match our paradigm of the sunny suburbanite,” he said.
Most people are surprised by the couples that they meet in the swinging lifestyle.
We spoke to a dozen marriage counselors about the lifestyle, and not one of them said don’t do it. Most said consenting adults will do what consenting adults do. But they also said getting sexual thrills outside of marriage can threaten a marriage.
I thought this was interesting.
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