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From Doctors to Judges, into the Swinger Scene

Who knew that even Judges where into the swinging scene, as Dr. Maureen Whelihan explains in the following article. Swingers are less likely to commit the mistake of not using protection.

I was performing an office procedure when the conversation continued into recurrent bacterial vaginosis (BV) and within a moment, we were discussing the lifestyle as a swinger. I am not sure why, but I am often surprised at who is partaking in this activity. Some are nurses, an attorney, a business owner and a librarian – all smart women, some quite beautiful, some not. So what is this all about?

Swinging, open marriage and the more technical – negotiated non-monogamous relationship, all refer to similar activities. Participation can be in a club requiring membership or private parties. There are even conventions for this very activity.

For the most part, participants must come as a couple; however, solo women are almost always welcome as they are in high demand. Rarely, few solo men are admitted to the gathering. But be advised that, although “relatively” uncommon, this activity attracts different folks from judges, to law enforcement, to doctors and nurses. Smart people who have a common love of sexual activity.

This is not for those that become easily jealous or offended. It attracts couples, married and not, that enjoy the excitement of having sex with others with their partners present. Some believe it removes the boredom of the marriage while others believe that it strengths their bond and lovemaking while providing an outlet for increased sexual needs.

You might think that we see this in our sexual health center – not so much. In fact, 70% of those involved in this activity are happy with how things are. Most declare their enjoyment for this activity early on in the relationship so the new partner is well aware. This allows those not interested to get out prior to getting into a serious relationship or marriage. Rarely, a partner participates with reluctance due to an “addiction” to the lover/husband.

Several of my GYN patients have mentioned their participation in this lifestyle. Each of them did so during a discussion about abnormal paps and HPV or recurrent BV. So it is important to understand this behavior is not without risk. STD screenings are often done or recommended by more organized clubs and condoms are readily available at each event.

An interesting study was done looking at safe sex practices between those that are unfaithful to their spouse compared to those that practice negotiated non-monogamous (swinging) behaviors. As you might expect, those that were unfaithful were LESS LIKELY to use protection during their sexual encounter compared to swingers and also MORE LIKELY to abuse alcohol or drugs compared to swingers. Various theories exist as to why this is. Bottom line, bringing and STD home to the unknowing partner is never a good thing.

So while we have identified the majority of men and 25% of women have a more androgen predominating sex drive and crave frequent sexual activity, some will find their preferred outlet in swinging. The majority are white and heterosexual with bisexuality being a close second and finally same sex couples.

Consider this discussion when a patient indicates that her spouse has a vasectomy but she is seeking additional birth control. Don’t assume that she is just paranoid about vasectomy failure or conceiving……perhaps she has an alternative sexual lifestyle not previously discussed.

By the looks of things there are a wild variety of people out there waiting to be discovered at their local swingers club. Please note that being a swinger does come with a “warning”. Feel that you fit right in? Give us a try Desire Swingers.

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